Freeloading Son

Started by Steve, Mar 12, 2018, 04:44 pm

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Some time ago, whenever the kid moved up here, the wife and he went and bought a car that he could fit his massive size in (he weighs over 450lbs - 204kg). They insisted they knew what they were doing so I stayed out of it. We paid $3,000 ($3853 Canadian) for it.

We took it into the dealer this morning (yes, I know dealers are more expensive and tend to sell you more than you need but I've been going to these guys for years and I trust them and they've always given me a fair deal) because the brakes felt like they needed some work. They looked at everything on, in and around the car and here's what they found:

1. Front brake pads worn down to 3mm and have to be replaced.
2. Rotors so pitted and warped they need to be replaced.
3. Brake pad calipers damaged and need to be replaced.
4. One lug nut stud broken.
5. Tensioner on the motor serpentine belt squealing.
6. Some part around the strut (I forget which one he told me) broken.
7. Rear brake drums wouldn't come off so forcing them would probably break most everything in there (worst case scenario).

Fixing all of that would come to around $3,100 ($3,982 Canadian) ... and that's if there's nothing wrong with the motor, transmission, drive train, etc.

Fuck that. It's going back in our other house's garage (where the kid is living) and if he wants a car he can get a damn job and buy one.

We can't keep supporting his ass. We're burning through our retirement money and it has to stop. He's 38 years old and wanting us to provide him with food, shelter and transportation for free? Fuck that.
Dear kids who are snorting condoms, apparently your parents didn't use them correctly either.


I know what you are saying. Trust me I do. I have a 23 year old daughter we are havin a few problems with at the moment. As for the car problems. I told you about mine in a different thread but my wifes is were the real problem lies. We paid 2500 for it 8 months ago or something. It's going to cost us 2100 to fix it. It will get fixed and put back on the road, but slowly.


If the wife and son had asked for my input that car would never have been bought. What a POS it is.
Dear kids who are snorting condoms, apparently your parents didn't use them correctly either.


They never ask though, you should expect that. I do. I only get called in to clean the mess up, not to take part in making it. :)


That sucks Steve but happy wife= happy life so I guess you deal with it or take the friction that results. Thats the way I see it.
Ending a sentence with a preposition is something up with which I will not put .
 - Sir Winston Churchill


I'm tellin ya. I gotta a daughter that is startin to piss me off as much as your son is. I've almost had enough. :hfim


I dunno ... is she you and your wife's daughter?

My kid is my stepson so far be it from me to throw his ass out and tell him to sink or swim.

Like the man said:

Quote from: Pwillie on Mar 13, 2018, 03:37 pmhappy wife= happy life
Dear kids who are snorting condoms, apparently your parents didn't use them correctly either.


Is who my wife and my daughter, lmao. I didn't say that, lol. I only meant I can relate to the fact that your stepson is pissin you off cause I have a daughter like that.


Oh I see what your sayin. No she is not me and my wifes daughter. She is my full daughter and my wife's step-daughter.


I just meant did you and your wife birth this girl, as in, she's not your daughter because of a previous marriage? If so, then you have some say in what she does (theoretically :P ).

Edit: I was about to post the above but you've just answered my question. So, theoretically, you have more say in your daughter's life than your wife ... lol ... like that would ever be true. :P
Dear kids who are snorting condoms, apparently your parents didn't use them correctly either.


My wife has been with me since my daughter was 1 1/2 I think so she has complete say in her life and I am just here to lay down the law when it gets serious I guess, lol.


Ah ... different situation then.

I had no part in this kid's upbringing so I essentially have no say in what happens involving him.

I'm going to move to a different thread because I'm drinking and I'm starting to get pissed off about this freeloader.
Dear kids who are snorting condoms, apparently your parents didn't use them correctly either.


Completely understand. :rigon  We'll talk another night about this. ;)


My opinion is that as a parent/step-parent, our job is to teach the children to independent and be able to able to handle life on their own. Yes, there may be certain situations where they may need our help once and again. But, at that age, whether they are a step-child or not, there should be no reason where you should have to go through that. Sometimes, you've got to let them fall so they learn how to pick themselves up!

You're a better man than I if you do all of that because I would not have paid for anything. And he needed help with the dealer too??? Really? My kids know better than to come to me for that but will ask their mother. This and many more reasons is why we have separate monies. I work, she works. We separate the bills and pay what we are responsible for. I don't need to ask her for money and she doesn't have to ask me but on a few occasions. Sorry, but I don't believe in handing over ALL of my money to someone that I've worked hard for except for the gov't.

This is not to say that I don't buy her things, etc...not true. She does not control my pay checks nor I control hers.